Being an ally

I have White privilege.  I’m biracial, and honestly I identify more with my Asian side, but the fact is that I “pass” as White, regardless of my sense of self.  That means:   ·       I do not get characterized because of the color of my skin. ·       People don’t compliment me on my English or…

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Everyone deserves to be safe

You have the right to safety.  You have the right to personhood.  You deserve to feel safe and protected at work, on the streets, in your home. It’s taken me a while to marshal my thoughts around the needless death of George Floyd, coming as it did right with the harassment of Christian Cooper and…

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Who Do Like?

Liking your coworkers is so important to liking your job.  In my last job, I really struggled because there were a lot of challenging people there.  Briefly, there was a fellow who called himself “Mr. Diversity” and complimented a Vietnamese American student on “good Asian work ethic.”  There was the person who cleared his throat…

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How can you really know what you like

But how can you determine what you really enjoy?  It seems like this should be simple, but often it’s just not.  We get so bogged down with other people’s advice, opinions about prestige, messages about what’s realistic, worries about money, etc., that sometimes we just can’t tell. And sometimes we haven’t really had the space…

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Saying no, part 3

  How can you say no when your boss wants you to do something more?   I’ve been talking about saying no this week, and I know this particular issue is a big challenge for a lot of us.  It’s certainly something I’ve struggled with in previous jobs.   In terms of approaching this issue,…

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Saying no, part 2

The first real job offer I turned down was terrifying.   I was fresh back from Japan, and had realized through my time there that I didn’t want to teach—the thing I’ d clung to as a possible career all through college and my 3 years on the Japan Exchange & Teaching Program.  So in…

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