Saying no, part 3

  How can you say no when your boss wants you to do something more?   I’ve been talking about saying no this week, and I know this particular issue is a big challenge for a lot of us.  It’s certainly something I’ve struggled with in previous jobs.   In terms of approaching this issue,…

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Saying no, part 2

The first real job offer I turned down was terrifying.   I was fresh back from Japan, and had realized through my time there that I didn’t want to teach—the thing I’ d clung to as a possible career all through college and my 3 years on the Japan Exchange & Teaching Program.  So in…

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Breathing is good.

Yesterday I talked about being overwhelmed, but how do you keep those feelings at bay?   One of the things I encourage my clients to do is to practice some basic mindfulness.  This doesn’t have to be anything big or woo-woo.  I like to sprinkle 5-minute doses of mindfulness throughout my day, especially if it’s…

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Losing It

How’s your pandemic going?  I’m afraid I lost my shit the other day. My weepy freak-out was precipitated by the refusal of one of my dogs to eat her dinner, but my reaction was all kinds of out of proportion to the trigger.   By way of background, the dinner-refuser was Rose, our rescued Yorkshire…

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What can I do today?

Feeling uncertain and anxious really stinks.  We can start to feel helpless and hopeless, and we step into chronic stress.  And as we all know, chronic stress brings with it a whole host of badness, from illnesses to brain fog to depression to sleep disruptions.   So if you’re stuck in that crappy place, try…

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May Career Tip

  This may seem like a strange time to rebuild your resume, but it’s actually the perfect chance to think through what you’ve accomplished so you can redefine what you want once we can all safely go back to work.   Start by digging up whatever you have for a resume, even if it’s old. …

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